As a Dating Practitioner, I often get to hear about various dating experiences and problems that men share with me, and why their dates did not work out.

What they fail to realize is that they have been going about dating the wrong way and/or making common dating mistakes that may greatly reduce their chances with the ladies.

Here are 6 useful tips on dating that you can apply to turn your next date into a successful one!

1. Pay attention and listen to her.

A good listening ear is the way to go as people naturally like to be heard.

Men often make the mistake of hogging the entire conversation and laying it all out like an open book in an attempt to impress their date.

Instead, refrain from making the conversation about you (it only makes you appear unattractive) and give her a chance to share about herself while you listen attentively.

When you do so, you create a sense of mystery and are more likely to pique her interest.

2. Ask questions.

You shouldn’t place too much stress on yourself about what to talk about on a date, but it is always good to prepare a mental list of topics to prevent awkward silences.

Instead of just asking standard questions about what she likes, try angling your questions in a more fun and relatable way.

Some examples could be, “What is a challenge you hope to overcome this year?” or “What is one country you’d really love to travel to, but haven’t been to yet?”

These questions are usually safe to ask and allow you to find out more about her interests and hobbies at the same time.

3. Give sincere compliments.

Everybody likes to feel good about themselves, and sometimes a sincere compliment goes a long way.

However, make sure you don’t overdo it, or it may seem superficial and forced. A simple remark like “You look great today” is natural and will help lift the mood.

4. Spend quality time.

Dates don’t have to mean expensive dinners or flowers all the time. Women actually just want to enjoy a date with a man who pays attention (i.e. don’t get distracted by your phone all the time).

For subsequent dates, try switching it up with fun ideas, like a movie marathon night or whipping up a home-cooked meal for her.

Nothing beats home-cooked food that’s made with love!

5. Have confidence in yourself.

Our level of confidence solely depends on how we cultivate it. No woman wants to deal with a nervous wreck and it could leave a bad impression.

Your best chance of succeeding at a date is to show that you are comfortable in your own skin. Of course, that confidence has to be genuine, which brings us to the last point.

6. Perhaps the best advice on dating is to be genuine.

Nothing is more important than being genuine and honest. If you are not interested in her, don’t beat around the bush. While rejection may be a hard pill to swallow, it’s much better than getting played or ghosted by a potential partner.

People appreciate honesty and it is up to you to keep it real.

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