From suave cars to our favourite chocolate bars, we can find anything online. What if we find our soulmate too?

Online dating can be fun and exhilarating. It has gained significant attention in recent years because it allows one to set their preferences of an ideal, compatible partner before meeting the other party.

Dating websites and apps, utilizing this concept, make it possible for you to figure out whether or not the other person is worth your time in the first place.

In the online dating landscape, you can easily search for your “dream partner” and start a conversation immediately. While this may sound simple, it is, in fact, extremely complex.

When we’re attracted to someone, we have the tendency to ignore warning signs and may even end up making huge mistakes out of “love”. For obvious reasons, the Internet isn’t the safest place to be and we cannot simply trust what people are saying.

Here’s a quick checklist of things to remember while dating online to increase your chances of finding love.

1. Choose your dating platform wisely.

Countless dating sites like eHarmony and have bloomed around us in the modern dating landscape.

However, not all dating apps and sites are reliable and trustworthy, so make sure you do compare across various sources and read online reviews before deciding to use any.

Make sure to pick a reputable dating app or site that aligns with your values and will most likely find you a suitable and compatible match.

2. Keep your expectations neutral and don’t make assumptions.

Unfortunately, there are downsides to online dating like catfishing, where people fake their personal information online by pretending to be someone else. Be wary of too-good-to-be-true profile photos and keep your expectations in check.

If someone replies to you on a dating app, don’t just assume that they feel the same way about you. They may be slightly interested, but keep in mind that they are in the process of figuring you out as well.

3. Don’t be so eager to jump into a relationship.

Always remember that the other party might be keeping their options open at the same time. Dating is a two-way street, so give him or her some time to take you into consideration.

Even if you really like this person and have started to envision a future with him or her, they may not feel the same way about you. Respect their feelings and give them enough space and time to think over it and understand their own feelings.

4. Know when it’s time to move on.

Once again, two people may not necessarily feel the same way about each other. If you don’t hear from him or her within a week and they don’t seem interested in continuing the conversation, it’s probably time for you to move on.

After all, you deserve someone who is just as interested in you as you are in them.

5. Be honest and grounded.

It’s not uncommon to make things up to impress the person on the other side of the screen. While this may temporarily “help” you in the short term, it can definitely hurt you in the long run when you realise that you have to keep up with all your lies.

Remember that honesty is the foundation of every relationship and we all want to be with someone who falls in love with the real us.

6. It’s okay to be rejected.

Rejections are part and parcel of the online dating experience, so learn to accept them with grace. If someone doesn’t accept your online request or reply to your messages, don’t doubt yourself or think that you aren’t good enough. Love yourself enough to take it in your stride and move on to someone who appreciates you for who you are.

Do’s of online dating

1. Create a genuine and realistic profile

What would you do if the person you’ve met looks nothing like their profile photo? If you truly want to find love, you must be genuine about who you are, including all the details you post on your profile.

There’s nothing wrong with injecting a little humour if that’s your thing, but don’t use photos that are heavily edited or fake just to score a first date.

2. Look beyond their photos

With online dating, we’re bound to be curious about how the other person looks. While physical attraction is important, we need to bear in mind that a relationship isn’t all about looks.

Chemistry, compatibility and a real emotional connection is what you want, so focus on these aspects when interacting with different people.

3. Respect their time and space

It’s normal to feel excited when you get a text or reply from that special someone. However, they may not be on the same page when it comes to feelings and the level of commitment, so you will need to constantly remind yourself not to spam them with chains of texts.

Give them some time and space, and respect their feelings regardless of how it turns out.

Don’ts of online dating

1. Don’t trust others too easily

Be discerning about people. Love scams have become increasingly common, so stay alert and don’t instantly place all your trust in someone else.

It can also be a challenge to verify if the person on the other end of the line is single, attached or married, despite what they post on their profile. If you feel that something’s off about the person, you’re probably right.

2. Don’t force it

You can’t force someone to talk to you. If it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.

3. Don’t rush for a meeting in person

So you like someone and he/she feels the same way about you. While it’s something to be excited about, patience is also important.

Don’t rush into meeting in real life just after a day or two of texting. Give yourself ample time to know each other better.

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